Hoorah!! We’re are having a second baby!!!
After trying for just under a year, on and off, we are very excited by this announcement. So much so, that I am telling you straight after my first midwifes appointment and weeks before our first scan!
Now, I know some of you will say you shouldn’t tell people before the first 12 weeks but I am so against that for a few reasons. Firstly, in the early stages, your body goes through many changes. You may be more tired and less able to concentrate, you may need to go to the loo more often. Hard to explain without giving the game away and then, if you suffer morning sickness.. well, lets just say it may be hard to hide, especially from family, close friends or even your employer.
Secondly and most importantly is if something happens to the baby. This is most peoples reason for not sharing the news, but exactly the reason that I am. Although I have never lost a baby, I know people that have and its more common than you think. I know with absolute certainty, I would rather be able to tell people that I have miss-carried and let them support me if they wished, rather than suffer in silence and act like nothing ever happened just because I didn’t tell them in the first place.
So with that in mind, I am sharing with you, our happy news. We think we are roughly 9 weeks along so far, so due late January but we will have a dating scan hopefully in a few weeks. At the midwife appointment today she went through so many questions about my health, my previous pregnancy and so on. We’ve established that I’m low risk for things like gestational diabetes and clotting but with my high blood pressure problems last time she has put me under consultant care for this pregnancy.
My most noticeable ‘symptoms’ if you like, have been my emotions going haywire (although the stress of having to move house probably isn’t helping that one), feeling a bit bloaty when I eat, tingly boobs and muchos tiredness.
When I was pregnant with Dexter, I didn’t have a clue until I was 5 months so missed out on the early stages. (You can read about that here.) I had no morning sickness or anything like that. By the time I knew, he was both visible and wriggly so it became very obvious, very quickly. This time round, I can sort of half forget that I’m even pregnant as there is nothing for other people to notice so it still doesn’t quite feel real.
We have told Dexter that there is a baby in Mummy’s belly. At first he looked a bit confused but then he touched my belly and said “Bubba in there?”, so he sort of gets it. I think he is going to be a fantastic big brother. A bit closer to the time I’d like to let him feel it kick and tell him its name so he can start to get used to the idea. I’ve seen a few books on amazon that I like to look at too that sort of explain it a different way. This one for example explains it in a way that makes is seem like my tummy is a house. If you scroll down the page there are others that they recommend so I’d like to get one or two when I’ve had a good look into it. Please let me know if you have any recommendations!
We’ve had a few names in our heads since having Dexter but we wont be revealing those just yet.
With Dexter being such a surprise, we had little time to prepare so were really frugal with the things we needed. His pram was an ex-display being sold on eBay, his cot belonged to my niece and so many people just wanted to give us things and help us out we didn’t really need to buy much. This time round, we still have all of Dexter’s things so we need even less so I will be looking at trying out some more specialist items for example…
The poddle pod or similar item
Some sort of wrap that enables me to wear the baby so I still have my hands free for Dexter,
A cot toy /mobile/light up lullaby type thing
A buggy/travel system that will fit in the boot of a KA. (if you can suggest one, please do)
And I most definitely would love some stylish maternity wear and some lovely breastfeeding tops too. I didn’t see much point in spending money on maternity clothing or anything nice for me as it would’ve only been used for a few months by the time I found out, so it seemed more of a waste than an investment so I just stuck with leggings and long vest tops.
I’m very excited to be sharing this journey with you and hope you’ll be following along. I can’t wait to share the next episode with you! Haha and I can now start using my ‘Pregnancy’ category on my posts again!
Thanks for reading!
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