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Your Mummy Blog Sucks! – My Response.

May 15, 2016

This morning I woke up at 6. 30 to feed Paisley. I put her back down in her moses basket when we were done and she went back to sleep. I dozily picked up my phone came across this blog post, “Dear Mommy Blogger”. You may have read it already. It’s certainly making the rounds, thats for sure. It seems to have ruffled a few feathers.
I started out typing what I thought would be a small Facebook response to it but as I got going, I decided it warranted more than just a couple of sentences.
Don’t get me wrong, the original post was well written, and was actually – dare I say it – bang on point for the most part, but when you write a blog post aimed at ‘Mummy/Mommy bloggers’ saying in no uncertain terms that their blog sucks, you are bound to rile up a few people.DSC_2824_3

Dear ‘A former typical ‘mommy blogger’ whose blog sucked just as bad as mine’,

I’m pleased to say there are a lot of things in your post that I don’t do.
I originally started this blog as a ‘baby book’ of sorts. I’d started a beautiful scrapbook for Dexter with lovely photos of all of his first’s and special occasions but it only contained the good bits of life. I wanted somewhere to write about the tough parts too and also to not forget a moment. Plus I’m too tight to keep printing photographs that essentially sit in a book nobody looks at.  My blog started as a diary so that someday I could look back on my children’s lives and remember everything, good and bad. 

Selling your soul.

You spoke about ‘selling your soul’ to write about various products. I can hold my hand up and say I have never been paid to write a post, I do the occasional review in exchange for the product but even then, only for things I’m actually interested in, that I would find useful and that fit my blog. If it doesn’t fit in with my writing, I don’t review it, no matter what it is.

Nobody is reading your shit.

I am already aware that nobody is reading my shit. My stats are very low compared to most and yes I do have moments where I’d like to grow it all and have thousands of comments and readers, but for the most part, I don’t care.  It’s my blog, for me. The readers are a bonus. Don’t get me wrong, I get very excited when I see that little email pop up to say that someone has taken the time to comment on my post, and I ALWAYS make sure to comment back as a way of saying thanks, but ultimately it’s not why I do it.

There’s no way in hell you are actually that happy.

I am happy. Believe it. Or don’t. That’s your prerogative. I have a husband that I love, that loves me, that works hard, is ambitious and is a good great parent. I have 2 children that I adore, that were/are very much wanted, that I love waking up to every day and having adventures with. Yes sometimes parenting is hard and yes I do include the hard parts on my blog but I love my children because of and in spite of the and the challenges they bring.
In amongst the times when Paisley won’t stop crying and Dexter refuses to eat or doesn’t want to come in from the park, are the moments when he picks up a muslin to wipe his baby sister’s face because she had a little sick up that I perhaps didn’t notice. They are genuinely good and happy kids and they make me happy. Very fucking happy!DSC_2853

You’re wasting your money.

I haven’t paid out hundreds of pounds for a hotel and train tickets and tickets to a blogging conference, or a new outfit for said conference. I’ve never even been to a blogging conference. I’ve wanted to and I’ve thought about it but I’ve never spent any money on one.
I haven’t paid thousands for a web designer.
You won’t find any of my posts popping up as ‘sponsored’
 Facebook.
I haven’t bought Twitter followers and I don’t pay for likes on Instagram either.

I haven’t rushed out to buy the latest DSLR camera and paid for a photography course. In fact, quite the opposite. I used to have a very good camera, with a few lenses, backdrops and all sorts of crazy expensive shit but I sold it all and I get by using my iPhone. And do you know what? I love it. I have enough stuff to cart around with me with a toddler and a baby in tow, without adding a camera to my list.

PR Friendly = I have no soul.

By blog and my bio’s do not say PR friendly. They never have. I’m friendly to most people, regardless of what job you do. If you have something I would like, I will think about working with you, if you don’t, I won’t. It doesn’t make me less friendly if I decide that I don’t want a review something at no benefit to me. If I decide to work with you on a review, it doesn’t mean I won’t include negative points. I might put them in a shit sandwich between some good points but I’m not in the habit of lying to the handful of readers that I have. And if I don’t like it, I won’t be loyal to the brand either. I’m not loyal to any brand. I’m not a ‘well off’ person, I buy things on offer or that are good value, not because I’m loyal.  There are one or two things I will stick to above all others. (I don’t like Pepsi, it’s Coca Cola all the way and I don’t like cheap peas, they have to be Birdseye, but I’m happy with things like Tesco own brand ketchup over Heinz)

You are wasting your time.

Yes, there are hundreds of things I could be doing instead of writing blog posts that very few people read, I could learn to crochet. I could learn salsa or go train spotting! Hell, I could even buy a hot air balloon and take people for rides. But this is my hobby. This is what I like to do. It doesn’t take me away from spending time with my children, I do lots of fun things with them to make them smile and laugh, help them, to teach them etc, and who are you to say what is a good way to spend my time? It’s MY time!

So I don’t care if you think my blog sucks, it’s MY blog, and NO! I won’t quit!

Sincerely,
A Mummy blogger that actually likes what she does, writes for herself and is very fucking happy.

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29 Comments

  • Reply Gemma May 15, 2016 at 8:29 am

    Well done for your response! I enjoy reading your blogs, my children are now 18 and 16 but I would of loved something like this when they were younger to know others have good and bad days but to pick up hints and ideas on what to do and different activities etc! You carry on what your doing, it’s a hobby that is personal to you but also helping others x

    • Reply Leslie Rickerby May 15, 2016 at 8:45 am

      Haha thank you. I really enjoyed writing this post and its already had a few likes on facebook so it would appear others are liking it too, even if they don’t take the time to comment. I know its not the biggest and best blog in the world but it serves a purpose and keeps me sane too! Thank you so much for reading 🙂

  • Reply Marina May 15, 2016 at 9:04 am

    Dear Leslie,
    I love this post! Yes, we do it because we enjoy it. I absolutely share your point. Well. it’s good to see your readership grow but first and foremost we write for ourselves. My blog has a handful of followers and yet I don’t want to quit. 🙂
    xxx

    • Reply Leslie Rickerby May 15, 2016 at 10:15 am

      Don’t quit! Keep going and I’ll keep going too. Thanks for reading 🙂

  • Reply Lisa (BadMammy.com) May 15, 2016 at 9:12 am

    Great response – I think when someone blankets an entire genre of blogger in one fell swoop they’re clearly not looking at the full picture properly. Like you, my blog began as a record of the goings on of the end of my pregnancy and first months of my boy’s life, it’s my hobby and some other blogger declaring it “shit” didn’t go down too well. Keep doing what you do!

    • Reply Leslie Rickerby May 15, 2016 at 10:13 am

      I bet! There are some absolutely fantastic bloggers about and we all write for different reasons.I take nothing away from those that do make money from their blog, In fact I admire them, they’ve taken their hobby and made a living from it. But that doesn’t give anyone the right to call it shit, especially without reading.

  • Reply kim (sisterkin) May 15, 2016 at 9:57 am

    Your blog totally does not suck. Lovely response x

    • Reply Leslie Rickerby May 15, 2016 at 10:03 am

      Yay! Thanks very much for that!

  • Reply Lisa May 15, 2016 at 9:59 am

    You gotta love the haters who just have an Ill educated rant and think it forms an ‘opinion’. When you don’t know back story as to why someone does something, if u haven’t walked a mile in their shoes then don’t comment – infact if u have nothing nice to say then don’t say anything at all is how I was brought up.

    Brilliant response and a well articulated ‘arguement’ of support for those who chose to channel their betterselves into a blog for their own enjoyment or development, their memories or to help others.

    I hope the comment sparked a little excitement for ur Sunday

    • Reply Leslie Rickerby May 15, 2016 at 10:02 am

      It did! It really did! Thank you. And thank you for reading.

  • Reply Julie kelly May 15, 2016 at 10:32 am

    I always read your stuff, enjoy it but rarely leave comments 🙂

    • Reply Leslie Rickerby May 15, 2016 at 11:06 am

      Thanks Julie, I do love comments but they aren’t the be all and end all. Thanks for reading it, it means a lot xxx

  • Reply Hannah Budding Smiles May 15, 2016 at 10:51 am

    YES!! I actually hadn’t seen the original article and I only skimmed it just now but I adore your response! Absolutely bang on. There are some who may have “sold their soul” in some people’s opinion, but even then that was their choice and it’s not for anyone else to slam them for that xx

    • Reply Leslie Rickerby May 15, 2016 at 11:11 am

      I don’t even think it is ‘selling your soul’
      If someone can make money from their hobby then good for them, be that blogging, gardening, hairdressing driving or any other ‘job’ that people can enjoy. If someone can make enough money from it to actually live off, well then even better! Mummy Bloggers Rule!

  • Reply Kay May 15, 2016 at 11:11 am

    I just read said post, and it annoyed me so much! I have to say I agree with the fake followers part. But all I read is “mommy blogs” so the line the says no one is reading them is complete nonsense. I see she’s still writing… Just because she’s dropped the “mom” blog title I wonder what her new nieche is? Seems more like a lifestyle blog to me…

    So well done on your response! It’s exactly why I would’ve written!

    • Reply Leslie Rickerby May 15, 2016 at 11:15 am

      Hahaha ‘Life style’ – so she can fit everything under one umbrella!
      Thank you 🙂

  • Reply Rebecca Phillips May 15, 2016 at 11:28 am

    I haven’t see the original post (I must be living under a rock!) but I love this! I feel like I could have written it myself! I made my blog header and media pack on picmonkey and have never paid out anything or been to conferences. I also write my blog for me. There was a time where I was obsessed with pageviews and stats but now I just don’t care and I’m much happier for it.

    • Reply Leslie Rickerby May 15, 2016 at 11:36 am

      Same here! I think when Paisley was born at the start of the year I stopped caring half as much at what others were doing and what my stats were like. Life is too short. It’s not a job for me, it is just a hobby. Obviously its different for those that do make money from it but it still doesn’t mean they suck. They work bloody hard and make it work. it takes a lot of dedication. Hats off to all the other mummy bloggers. Especially those that suck less than mine hahaha

  • Reply Claire - Life, Love and Dirty Dishes May 15, 2016 at 1:05 pm

    Great response. I don’t think we all paint a glossy picture. Above anything my blog is always honest. Warts and all. Yes I do make money from it, but i’m really proud of that. Last night a friend told me that reading my blog makes her feel more ‘normal’ and that she is not alone. That’s why I won’t quit.

    • Reply Leslie Rickerby May 15, 2016 at 1:20 pm

      No, Don’t! Even your blog title is honest! I often think that the best reviews are from our friends. It’s nice when other people read our work but when a friend or family member enjoys it and supports it, it’s even more encouraging. Well, I think so at least.

  • Reply Claire May 15, 2016 at 2:54 pm

    Brilliant post. You do what you enjoy doing. Your children have something amazing to look back over as they get older. Your blog is fab and hope you keep up the good work you are doing.

    • Reply Leslie Rickerby May 15, 2016 at 4:29 pm

      Thanks Claire, Love ya xx

  • Reply Michelle twin mum May 15, 2016 at 6:41 pm

    Lol, good for you. I’ve not seen the original post but I love your response. Do it for you and enjoy it, it sounds good to me sister! Mich x

    • Reply Leslie Rickerby May 15, 2016 at 9:51 pm

      Thanks, the original post is at the top if you wanted to read it. Thanks for your support 🙂

  • Reply Karla May 15, 2016 at 8:18 pm

    I cannot stop laughing at your remark, “I’m already aware that nobody is reading my s*@!.” You really struck my funny bone.

    • Reply Leslie Rickerby May 15, 2016 at 9:51 pm

      Hehe, well.. It’s kinda true. Or at least it was until I wrote this! Haha

  • Reply Laughing Mum May 18, 2016 at 9:37 am

    haha! great reply! She’s just pissed at herself and using her blog (what a surprise!) to sound it out.. isn’t that what we all do anyway the majority of the time? use our blogs to write our thoughts.. mine is purely for fun too, something that I like to do AND I love reading other peoples blogs, so there you go Leslie, another one who IS reading your sh**t lol – great post!

    • Reply Leslie Rickerby May 19, 2016 at 9:56 am

      Hahaha thanks so much for reading 🙂

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